Surrogacy FAQs

I Have Several Frozen Embryos At A Clinic, But They Are Unable To Work With A Surrogate. Can You Help Us Use Our Own Embryos?

Answer:
Yes, depending on the clinic you select. We have had experience shipping embryos from Europe, parts of the U.S., Canada, and Israel. It may require the filing of several customs documents, a specialized shipping container (which we can make available to clients), and communication between the two centers. We also receive documentation about the embryos’ freezing and storage techniques. Our staff will organize this with you. (This has been done successfully.)

Is There A Difference Between Frozen And Fresh Embryo Transfer Pregnancy Rates?

Answer:
Yes. There are higher pregnancy rates using fresh embryos; however, there is still some discussion on this issue. The higher rates could be a function of the fact that the best quality embryos are used first. It is hard to say if the difference in rates can be attributed to the freeze/ thaw or to the quality of the embryos.

How Long Will It Be Before I Have A Baby?

Answer:
Fertility is not an exact science. We cannot guarantee a child. We Care is willing to work with you and as many surrogates as you would like to try, in succession. A positive pregnancy test could happen after 6 months, or it could take 2 years or more. We would be misleading you if we told you we could guarantee a baby within a specific time frame.

My Friend Wants To Be My Surrogate And Does Not Want To Be Paid. We Do Not Know What To Do To Have The Legal And Medical Work Done. Can You Help Us?

Answer :
Yes. Please be sure to understand the emotional impact this may have on your friendship, both if it fails and if a baby is born. We recommend that everyone see a psychologist familiar with third-party reproduction to explore this issue. If you decide to continue, your friend would have to go through the screening and education procedure like any other surrogate. Please remember that age is a factor in the fertility rates with Surrogates.

Most 40-year-old women have friends who are also 40 years old. Your friend would not meet the criteria of our program as the surrogate and would not be accepted. It is important that your friend understands the legal, financial, medical, and psychological implications of her decision. We would have her review all of these in depth. A legal document must be completed whether you will be exchanging money or not. This is for the protection of all parties involved, including the unborn child. Essentially, your friend would have the same program as all of our surrogate mothers. Your agency fee, however, could be reduced since you do not need our services for advertising for or finding and matching you with a surrogate.

If My Surrogate Becomes Pregnant, Where Will She Deliver?

Answer :
Most surrogates will deliver in our partner IVF and Surrogacy clinics. She may chooses to see the doctor who has delivered her own babies. You would, however, be able to offer input into this decision. Legal and insurance factors can impact the doctor/state of delivery, but this would all be discussed prior to signing any surrogate contract. We help you through pregnancy, delivery and the final law proceedings.

I Want A 23-Year-Old Full Surrogate With A University/College Education Who Has Already Had Children. Do You Have Anyone To Help Me?

Answer :

Probably not. Think of yourself at 23 years of age. If you have a university education, you may just have graduated and started your first job. Very few women with a university education have even begun, let alone finished, their families. They are not ready to think about helping others form theirs. Even 25- to 27-year-olds are rarely within this group. If you review applications of women with children in this age range, they often had an unplanned early pregnancy and chose to have the child. Unfortunately, this usually prevents them from following any plans for further education. Nevertheless, I have worked with many donors without a college degree who are very bright and follow We Care’s directions quickly and without difficulty. (The medications/medical procedures can be quite complex.)

How Long Will It Be Before My Surrogate Starts Fertility Treatment?

Answer :
This depends on many variables including how long it takes to match you with a surrogate. Full surrogates who undergo artificial insemination with the husband’s sperm are less available since many surrogates do not want a genetic relationship to the child they are carrying. IVF surrogates are more common; they opt to carry babies that are formed from the couple’s embryo after in vitro fertilization or with the help of an ovum donor. Couples who request very specific characteristics in a Full Surrogate will also have a longer wait. For example, one couple wanted a 5’4″, slim, young, blonde, fair-skinned woman with a college education and non-mixed cultural background. We Care always tries to meet our client’s needs, but, needless to say, they had to wait much longer than other clients. Once you have chosen your surrogate, time is required to verify complete medical testing, undertake surrogate counseling, conduct legal agreement negotiations, and make the necessary travel preparations. Although much of this is done prior to matching, we still often require 1 to 3 months after matching before fertility treatments can begin.

Is Your Agency The Largest In The Country?

Answer :
No, it is not the largest. We do not spend a lot of money on fancy office surroundings or computerized data systems that can pull any statistic-relevant or not-out of the air. (Of course it would be your increased fee which would pay for those kinds of expenses!) We Care provides you with ample staff to organize all aspects of your program. We provide personalized service. We have formal weekly team meetings and communicate on an ongoing basis to keep your case organized and progressing as quickly as possible. You will not get lost within a huge facility treating hundreds of clients.

How Can I Be Sure That My Surrogate Will Continue In The Program With Us?

Answer :
You cannot be sure. No agency can be sure. Of course, We Care explains the program to the surrogate, and we outline the requirements and responsibilities for her participation on many occasions. We discuss the psychological effects of the unique relationship she will have with the couple and the child, and we afford her many chances to change her mind before she has started her fertility treatment. Some women find the reaction to fertility medications too disruptive, and some find the treatments/testing difficult to fit into their busy lives. Remember, these are women with young families of their own. Occasionally, a new boyfriend will have an impact on her involvement, or a family emergency changes her ability to participate. These are life situations that are impossible to control. If this happens, we will help you find another surrogate. The majority of the women we work with are kind, helpful, genuine and RELIABLE.

We Do Not Want To Have A Personal Relationship With Our Surrogate That Will Continue After The Birth Of Our Child. How Can We Be Kind To Her But Still Stay Slightly Removed?

Answer :
We Care’s staff has many conversations with the surrogate during the screening process. Her expectations for the couple’s involvement are discussed at length and are a topic in the psychological evaluation. As We Care helps match you with a potential surrogate, we address this issue and try to match you with a surrogate who fits your requirements. You will have the chance to meet with her or talk with her on the telephone before you choose her. Open discussion on this issue is best so that all parties understand each other’s expectations.

Total anonymity is not possible since legal documentation has both parties’ names in print. There are some surrogates who wish to stay emotionally removed from the couple to some extent as well. However, in the majority of cases, a surrogate tends to be more involved and dedicated to the medical/travel/legal/obstetrical care if she feels that she is helping another couple she likes and respects. In turn, she needs to feel respected and appreciated, especially when her hormones are surging. We recommend frequent contact with the help of the We Care staff. We can protect your emotional distance to some degree by helping to organize telephone conversations and by forwarding letters between you. If you want to meet your surrogate, it is best to do so on neutral ground such as a restaurant.

We have occasionally sent fruit baskets, small gifts for her children at Christmas, or flowers to the surrogate on intended parents’ behalf. One couple wanted a basket of cheese, vegetables, and fruits sent monthly to ensure that their surrogate was eating well. We Care’s staff will implement these steps, when necessary or requested, and offer insights into your surrogate’s frame of mind as she progresses through the program.

Can the Surrogate Acquire legal Custody to the Child? What About the Baby M Case?

Answer :
If the intended parents fulfill their contractual obligations, it would be virtually impossible for a gestational carrier to acquire legal custody after the birth. The surrogate has no genetic relation to the child. In states where a pre-birth order can be obtained, the intended parents appear on the original birth certificate. At other times, a step-parent adoption takes place. NAFG conducts surrogacies only in states favorable to such arrangements, with most applicable legal agreements drafted and signed before fertilization and implantation takes place.

The Baby M case [109 N.J. 396, 537 A.2d 1227] (1988) was a traditional surrogacy, in which Mary Beth Whitehead used her own egg and was inseminated with the intended father’s sperm. Unlike in a gestational surrogacy, Whitehead was the genetic mother of the child. The final ruling granted custody to the intended parents with visitation rights for Whitehead, based on the best interests of the child. The court refused to enforce the terms of the original contract.

Occasionally, a family member may volunteer to serve as a traditional surrogate. The vast majority of NAFG’s cases, however, will involve gestational carriers.

Do I have to pay all the fees all at once?

Answer :
No you do not. The first fee which is due with the signed agreement is the initial fee. After that fees occur at the time of service until the signing of the contract between you and your gestational <a surrogate mother. After the contract has been signed you will deposit funds into an escrow account. These funds will cover the monies required for the pregnancy and include the surrogate mother’s fees.

Why work with We Care Health Services?

Answer :
We Care Health Services is a full service agency dedicated to helping intended parents achieve their dreams of having a family. We have experience and the expertise of surrogacy case management we are well versed in all aspects of surrogacy.

What services do you provide?

Answer :
We assist match intended parents with the right surrogate mother for them. Using the details you submit in your profile and from discussions we have with you, we assist locate a surrogate mother who has the same views as you do. There are some very specific aspects of surrogacy which need to be agreed upon before we even tell you about a prospective surrogate mother. For example if you want three embryos to be transferred at the time of transfer there is no point in matching you with a surrogate mother who will only agree to having one embryo transferred.

Our services include coordinating the testing of the surrogate mother and her spouse; coordinating the background and psychological evaluations; coordinating the contract process between you and your surrogate mother; coordinating with the fertility centers, attorneys, psychologists, obstetricians and hospitals.

Do you work with international clients?

Answer :
Yes we do! We have a very large international client base.

How much contact can we have with our chosen surrogate mother?

Answer :
When you complete your profile you tell us how much contact you want to have before, during and after the pregnancy. We will match you with a surrogate mother who wants the same contact as you do.

How is the Surrogate Mother Paid During the Pregnancy?

Answer :
Once the gestational surrogacy agreement has been signed by you, the IVF and Surrogacy partner clinic and your surrogate mother and her spouse, you deposit funds into an escrow account. The surrogate mother will be paid from these funds according to your signed gestational surrogacy agreement.

What Kind of Support do You Provide Before, During and After the Surrogacy Process?

Answer :
The process of surrogacy is emotionally challenging. We know the feelings of intended parents we provide support in a professional and caring way. We have support meetings on the telephone so that you can talk to other intended parents. We also have bi-weekly telechats which focuses on a particular subject, such as medical aspects, and we have a professionals in the field of discussion who can answer your questions. We provide you with frequent updates so that you know exactly where we are in the process. Also, we know that most intended parents work during the day and cannot talk from their offices so we accommodate your schedule. Evening appointments are available.

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